How Electronic Meetings Will (Officially) Become Part of Al-Anon
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The 2021 World Service Conference (WSC) has recognized Electronic Meetings as Al-Anon Family Groups, and they have become part of our Al-Anon service structure. Previously, these permanent electronic meetings were not considered Al-Anon groups and were not included in any service structure. WSO has encouraged Areas to begin the conversation about admitting groups that meet only electronically as quickly as possible. And you may be wondering:
There are no easy answers for this historical change, but first things first. Let’s look at what we do know. This decision relates to permanently registered groups that meet only electronically (i.e., those without a physical component). Groups meeting temporarily via electronic platforms during the pandemic are expected to eventually resume meeting in their physical locations, with or without an electronic component. These groups will not need to re-register with WA Area.
The next step for WA Area will be to take as much time as needed before deciding whether to include electronic meetings in the WA Area service structure. More information will be presented at the August Area World Service Committee meeting. In the meantime, we can take a look at what is impacting our groups locally.
WSO provided Information to Area Delegates after the 2021 WSC. There is helpful information that I would like to share with you:
”Hybrid Group
The 2021 WSC decision to recognize permanent electronic meetings as Al-Anon Family Groups removed the Al-Anon Policy barrier which had prevented registration of groups which meet face-to-face while also providing an electronic platform for those who cannot or do not wish to attend in person, aka hybrid groups. The WSO has no plans to distinguish groups as face-to-face, electronically only, or hybrid. All groups are Al-Anon Family Groups—the only difference is their meeting location or locations.
Groups which were meeting temporarily on electronic platforms due to the pandemic that choose to continue meeting using a hybrid approach once restrictions are lifted do not need to inform the WSO.
Areas can now register hybrid groups without violating Policy; however, the WSO Online Group Records program does not currently permit capturing both a physical address and an electronic platform location for any Al-Anon Family Group. Therefore, Areas which choose to register hybrid groups need to decide how the electronic component will be captured and displayed for the time being.
The WSO’s immediate focus following this historical WSC decision is to enable Area Group Records Coordinators to welcome and maintain group records for groups which meet only electronically. In the future, the WSO may expand that capability based on the experience and needs expressed by Areas which have groups meeting in a hybrid manner.
Groups Meeting Electronically Temporarily Which Choose to Stay Fully Electronic
Some Al-Anon Family Groups which have been meeting on electronic platforms temporarily during the pandemic may choose not to return to a face-to-face setting. These groups do not need to reregister; however, technical system limitations will preclude Area Group Record Coordinators, and even the AFG Records Team, from updating meeting location information for these groups through the Online Group Records application until the WSO Staff has completed the application development work. Geographic Areas, which in their autonomy have completed their discussions and reached an informed decision about Area procedures related to groups which meet electronically, can work with the WSO Staff on making any updates possible in the meantime.”
At Seattle AIS, we are committed to listing all Al-Anon meetings, whether in-person only, hybrid, concurrent, or electronic only, until further information is received from WA Area and/or WSO. This allows our groups and districts to discuss options. This also allows us to work with the Area Group Records Coordinator as changes are implemented.
I am so excited for the future of Al-Anon, and especially our Area structure, as we explore the possibilities of a virtual world included in our corner of the Northwest.
Please join us this year at our Area World Service Committee (AWSC) August 7th, at 9am. Click the above flyer for more details.
- What does this mean for our Area?
- What do we need to do next?
- How soon do we need to answer these questions?
There are no easy answers for this historical change, but first things first. Let’s look at what we do know. This decision relates to permanently registered groups that meet only electronically (i.e., those without a physical component). Groups meeting temporarily via electronic platforms during the pandemic are expected to eventually resume meeting in their physical locations, with or without an electronic component. These groups will not need to re-register with WA Area.
The next step for WA Area will be to take as much time as needed before deciding whether to include electronic meetings in the WA Area service structure. More information will be presented at the August Area World Service Committee meeting. In the meantime, we can take a look at what is impacting our groups locally.
WSO provided Information to Area Delegates after the 2021 WSC. There is helpful information that I would like to share with you:
”Hybrid Group
The 2021 WSC decision to recognize permanent electronic meetings as Al-Anon Family Groups removed the Al-Anon Policy barrier which had prevented registration of groups which meet face-to-face while also providing an electronic platform for those who cannot or do not wish to attend in person, aka hybrid groups. The WSO has no plans to distinguish groups as face-to-face, electronically only, or hybrid. All groups are Al-Anon Family Groups—the only difference is their meeting location or locations.
Groups which were meeting temporarily on electronic platforms due to the pandemic that choose to continue meeting using a hybrid approach once restrictions are lifted do not need to inform the WSO.
Areas can now register hybrid groups without violating Policy; however, the WSO Online Group Records program does not currently permit capturing both a physical address and an electronic platform location for any Al-Anon Family Group. Therefore, Areas which choose to register hybrid groups need to decide how the electronic component will be captured and displayed for the time being.
The WSO’s immediate focus following this historical WSC decision is to enable Area Group Records Coordinators to welcome and maintain group records for groups which meet only electronically. In the future, the WSO may expand that capability based on the experience and needs expressed by Areas which have groups meeting in a hybrid manner.
Groups Meeting Electronically Temporarily Which Choose to Stay Fully Electronic
Some Al-Anon Family Groups which have been meeting on electronic platforms temporarily during the pandemic may choose not to return to a face-to-face setting. These groups do not need to reregister; however, technical system limitations will preclude Area Group Record Coordinators, and even the AFG Records Team, from updating meeting location information for these groups through the Online Group Records application until the WSO Staff has completed the application development work. Geographic Areas, which in their autonomy have completed their discussions and reached an informed decision about Area procedures related to groups which meet electronically, can work with the WSO Staff on making any updates possible in the meantime.”
At Seattle AIS, we are committed to listing all Al-Anon meetings, whether in-person only, hybrid, concurrent, or electronic only, until further information is received from WA Area and/or WSO. This allows our groups and districts to discuss options. This also allows us to work with the Area Group Records Coordinator as changes are implemented.
I am so excited for the future of Al-Anon, and especially our Area structure, as we explore the possibilities of a virtual world included in our corner of the Northwest.
Please join us this year at our Area World Service Committee (AWSC) August 7th, at 9am. Click the above flyer for more details.
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AIS Council Meeting
Thursday, August 12th, 730p - 9p Electronic Meeting Join Zoom Meeting: Click Here Meeting ID: 839 6957 0120 Passcode: 001086 The AIS Council Meeting is the business meeting for the Greater Seattle Al-Anon Information Service. Each Group has a vote and is encouraged to send a representative. All Al-Anon members are invited to attend. |
Seattle Area Electronic Alateen Meetings to Begin in August
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Photo courtesy of Marjorie S
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During the pandemic, our in-person Alateen meetings were suspended. It is time to renew our commitment to the Alateen meetings to ensure that teens whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking can work on their recovery.
Thanks to the support from AIS, we will start our Alateen Groups with a Zoom Meeting on Saturdays, 10:30-11:30 am. This meeting was originally called RECOVERY IS FOR EVERYONE and will be added to the Alateen page on the Seattle AIS website. As required, this online meeting will be led by two certified AMIAS (Al-Anon Members Involved In Alateen Service).
Please pass information about these newly scheduled electronic meetings for teens to your groups to get the word out to interested teens or Al-Anon or AA members who need this information.
We will use the security settings recommended by our Alateen Safety Coordinator, and it is important to remember:
We hope to increase this meeting’s attendance and add other Alateen meetings in the future. To do this, it is important to know the names and contact information of AMIAS who were recertified this year. If you did not do the training (if required) and the form, please send this information to alateen@seattle-al-anon.org to update our records. If you are interested in working as an AMIAS, there is a need for training. More information about this will be provided in the near future.
We will be updating our email list as soon as we get information from you, and we will restart our monthly AMIAS information in THE BITS and on the website as soon as possible. Thank you to each one of you for providing service and support for our teens.
Thanks to the support from AIS, we will start our Alateen Groups with a Zoom Meeting on Saturdays, 10:30-11:30 am. This meeting was originally called RECOVERY IS FOR EVERYONE and will be added to the Alateen page on the Seattle AIS website. As required, this online meeting will be led by two certified AMIAS (Al-Anon Members Involved In Alateen Service).
Please pass information about these newly scheduled electronic meetings for teens to your groups to get the word out to interested teens or Al-Anon or AA members who need this information.
We will use the security settings recommended by our Alateen Safety Coordinator, and it is important to remember:
- We try to prepare the teens so they can find a private space to join the meeting
- Parents/Caregivers are not allowed in the online Alateen Meeting
We hope to increase this meeting’s attendance and add other Alateen meetings in the future. To do this, it is important to know the names and contact information of AMIAS who were recertified this year. If you did not do the training (if required) and the form, please send this information to alateen@seattle-al-anon.org to update our records. If you are interested in working as an AMIAS, there is a need for training. More information about this will be provided in the near future.
We will be updating our email list as soon as we get information from you, and we will restart our monthly AMIAS information in THE BITS and on the website as soon as possible. Thank you to each one of you for providing service and support for our teens.
How to Host a Hybrid Meeting
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A Tradition 11 Story
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Many Groups have asked how to add a Group Outreach Coordinator as suggested by WA Area and choose a Group outreach project. The article below is an example of one Group's chosen process.
On Sunday, June 27th, the Search For Serenity (SFS) AFG hosted their first-ever Public Outreach event at Wilburton Hill Park in Bellevue. Though the weather hovered in the triple digits during Seattle’s recent heatwave, we were joined by a small group of steadfast troopers in the welcome shade of tall evergreens surrounding Wilburton’s picnic area. David R, SFS Outreach Committee’s External Logistics guru, had set everything up beforehand, reserving the picnic space, providing informational flyers, and arranging to feed our trusted attendees with freshly baked pizza from Costco. Rachel C, our Marketing and Design expert, who had designed our flyer, had her hands full with her two children as they playfully sprayed our members with welcome mists of cool water.
After opening with the “we” version of the Serenity prayer and playing a few rounds of the ice-breaker game, Common Ground, Teresa H, AIS Outreach Co-Coordinator, took the helm. She described the many efforts AIS is spearheading to reach out to and attract new members. This included purchasing ad space on Spotify and working with Google Grants to apply for free advertising for nonprofits. Patrice C, our WA Area Public Outreach Coordinator, echoed Teresa H’s excitement, and Rachel C suggested ways to help parents attend in-person meetings, such as providing safe transportation and childcare at the meeting space. All in all, 12 people attended, and, after two hours of sharing our experience, strength, and hope for Public Outreach, we closed with the Al-Anon Declaration of Unity.
As a follow-up, SFS Outreach Committee members attended an After-Action reporting meeting on Sunday, July 11th, at the Alano Club in Bellevue. There, we discussed what we thought about the event, how it was successful, and how we could improve in the future. We also talked about the next steps. Miriam W suggested that we undertake something small, measurable, and specific now, such as a literature outreach effort, and begin planning for something bigger in the future. After taking a committee conscience, it was decided we would bring this option to our group at SFS’s next Business Meeting on Saturday, July 31, where we will also present a Summary of our After-Action report.
We decided to make this an annual event and look forward to seeing everyone again on the last Sunday in June next year! Questions, please email sfsodat.2020@gmail.com.
On Sunday, June 27th, the Search For Serenity (SFS) AFG hosted their first-ever Public Outreach event at Wilburton Hill Park in Bellevue. Though the weather hovered in the triple digits during Seattle’s recent heatwave, we were joined by a small group of steadfast troopers in the welcome shade of tall evergreens surrounding Wilburton’s picnic area. David R, SFS Outreach Committee’s External Logistics guru, had set everything up beforehand, reserving the picnic space, providing informational flyers, and arranging to feed our trusted attendees with freshly baked pizza from Costco. Rachel C, our Marketing and Design expert, who had designed our flyer, had her hands full with her two children as they playfully sprayed our members with welcome mists of cool water.
After opening with the “we” version of the Serenity prayer and playing a few rounds of the ice-breaker game, Common Ground, Teresa H, AIS Outreach Co-Coordinator, took the helm. She described the many efforts AIS is spearheading to reach out to and attract new members. This included purchasing ad space on Spotify and working with Google Grants to apply for free advertising for nonprofits. Patrice C, our WA Area Public Outreach Coordinator, echoed Teresa H’s excitement, and Rachel C suggested ways to help parents attend in-person meetings, such as providing safe transportation and childcare at the meeting space. All in all, 12 people attended, and, after two hours of sharing our experience, strength, and hope for Public Outreach, we closed with the Al-Anon Declaration of Unity.
As a follow-up, SFS Outreach Committee members attended an After-Action reporting meeting on Sunday, July 11th, at the Alano Club in Bellevue. There, we discussed what we thought about the event, how it was successful, and how we could improve in the future. We also talked about the next steps. Miriam W suggested that we undertake something small, measurable, and specific now, such as a literature outreach effort, and begin planning for something bigger in the future. After taking a committee conscience, it was decided we would bring this option to our group at SFS’s next Business Meeting on Saturday, July 31, where we will also present a Summary of our After-Action report.
We decided to make this an annual event and look forward to seeing everyone again on the last Sunday in June next year! Questions, please email sfsodat.2020@gmail.com.
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Step Eight
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. 
Need a Free Newcomer Packet?Anyone local to Seattle who is a newcomer and wants an individual newcomer packet (or in Spanish too!), please send an email to LDC@seattle-al-anon.org with the name and mailing address. |
Just One
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I have a coffee meeting with my sponsor once a week, and we were discussing the Seattle Al-Anon Information Service phone line and BITS newsletter. We both get a copy of the BITS direct from AIS and copies forwarded by the secretaries of two different men’s groups.
My sponsor commented that only a few people on those mailing lists would open the emails and even skim the newsletter. His view was that it didn’t matter how many people read it. All the time, effort, and attention are worth it if ONE person reads what they need to read.
When we switched to Zoom online meetings due to COVID causing the closing of our regular in-person meeting place, one of my meetings began to have smaller attendance. During a discussion, one of the members said, “I’m not worried about attendance. People will be in the meeting they are supposed to be in.”
It reminded me of two important Al-Anon principles. First, I am powerless over the attendance at any meeting and my larger powerlessness over Al-Anon attendance as a whole. Secondly, people ready to hear the Al-Anon steps will be led by their Higher Power to be where they need to be.
At the beginning of my Al-Anon journey, I heard someone share that it was a successful meeting if they got one kernel of program growth out of a meeting. Likewise, when they shared, if one person heard one thing, then that was what their share was for.
I was a member of a noon meeting that was struggling with attendance. Members often had last-minute job demands that made regular attendance hard. One group had me sitting alone in the meeting room for about 20 minutes when a newcomer came in asking if this was the Al-Anon meeting. He and I sat and talked for the next hour — just the two of us.
Just one person came to a meeting! That’s why that meeting was there that day — for that one person.
Maybe that one newcomer came for me. Perhaps that was my Higher Power putting me in that room to learn that meetings aren’t about numbers like my job. Maybe that was part of my recognizing my powerlessness over “making the meeting a success” and redefining my idea about Al-Anon’s success.
To all the people working the phone lines and writing for and producing the BITS, thanks for all your time and hard work. To all the people arranging chairs, making coffee, and keeping the books for your meeting, thank you for your time.
Because of each of your efforts, someone, somewhere, will hear what they need to hear. Without your time and attention, the message of Al-Anon would not be there for them --- for that one person.
My sponsor commented that only a few people on those mailing lists would open the emails and even skim the newsletter. His view was that it didn’t matter how many people read it. All the time, effort, and attention are worth it if ONE person reads what they need to read.
When we switched to Zoom online meetings due to COVID causing the closing of our regular in-person meeting place, one of my meetings began to have smaller attendance. During a discussion, one of the members said, “I’m not worried about attendance. People will be in the meeting they are supposed to be in.”
It reminded me of two important Al-Anon principles. First, I am powerless over the attendance at any meeting and my larger powerlessness over Al-Anon attendance as a whole. Secondly, people ready to hear the Al-Anon steps will be led by their Higher Power to be where they need to be.
At the beginning of my Al-Anon journey, I heard someone share that it was a successful meeting if they got one kernel of program growth out of a meeting. Likewise, when they shared, if one person heard one thing, then that was what their share was for.
I was a member of a noon meeting that was struggling with attendance. Members often had last-minute job demands that made regular attendance hard. One group had me sitting alone in the meeting room for about 20 minutes when a newcomer came in asking if this was the Al-Anon meeting. He and I sat and talked for the next hour — just the two of us.
Just one person came to a meeting! That’s why that meeting was there that day — for that one person.
Maybe that one newcomer came for me. Perhaps that was my Higher Power putting me in that room to learn that meetings aren’t about numbers like my job. Maybe that was part of my recognizing my powerlessness over “making the meeting a success” and redefining my idea about Al-Anon’s success.
To all the people working the phone lines and writing for and producing the BITS, thanks for all your time and hard work. To all the people arranging chairs, making coffee, and keeping the books for your meeting, thank you for your time.
Because of each of your efforts, someone, somewhere, will hear what they need to hear. Without your time and attention, the message of Al-Anon would not be there for them --- for that one person.
Al-Anon Poem of the MonthRecovery
I wouldn't touch my feelings with a 10-foot pole! The loss nailed me to the cross. There I spoiled and festered. Sometimes I do the nailing. One step at a time the pole has shortened. Approach the self. Retrieve the loss. My self aches for redemption. by Megan H |
If you have an Al-Anon poem that you'd like to submit, please send it to newsletter@seattle-al-anon.org. Anonymous submissions accepted. |
Listening to the 1990 Seattle AA/Al-Anon International Convention Opening Ceremony
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“To maintain traditions of anonymity, we ask that there be no photographs taken, while you are in the Kingdome!” opens the 1990 Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) / Al-Anon International Convention in Seattle. “Let’s extend a hand to the Cape Fox Native American Dancers” who represent the Northwest, from Alaska to Seattle, and beyond. They will perform a welcome dance!”
These are the first lines from the convention, where up to 46,000 AA and Al-Anon members united for the opening ceremony on Friday, July 6, 1990. Right off the bat, we can hear the voice of the emcee, who is unmistakably radiant; a cross between Michael Buffer and a 1980s TV game show host. What a beautiful voice.
The first 15 minutes of the opening ceremony is an introduction by this wonderful voice, as he lists each and every one of the 71 countries represented at the event. From Argentina to Iceland, India to the Soviet Union, and ending with Zambia. The United States was mentioned last, after Zambia, but the mention of the U.S. last got the biggest applause. While listening to this on audio-only, this procession might sound a little boring, but I kept trying to picture what this scene looked like on the floor of the Kingdome. I imagine it looking similar to an Olympic Games opening day where all the countries and their Olympians are paraded down alphabetically country-by-country.
While mostly an AA event, the evening focused on their members and administrative structure, with some mentioning of Al-Anon by AA’s Chairman of the Board. “This morning, Al-Anon presented me with a resolution of gratitude of the fellowship of AA, and I would like to read the last few words of it:
‘Be it resolved that it is the desire of the World Service Conference of Al-Anon Family Groups always to remember Al-Anon’s roots and the inspired program of AA. May our special relationship continue to grow.’
May I ensure our friends in Al-Anon that we are here to stay, one day at a time, but we’re here to stay!”
Lois W was also praised heavily. “Of all those who with minds and hearts and hands implicit to the survival, growth, and vigor of this fellowship, none has had an impact more significant and enduring than Lois Wilson, a co-founder of Al-Anon, and a glorious lady. Lois died 19 months ago ... we feel her absence all the more keenly tonight because this is the first time we have converged ... without her being with us.”
The same speaker gave an in-depth analysis on just how much Lois means to everyone (this word salad of a quote was too necessary for me not to include): “Five years ago ... Lois expressed her belief that for all of the progress we had made, its only the beginning with much more to come. She said that the spirit of AA, its spiritual sources and resources, held enormous promise for humanity. And world events of recent months that have opened new and broader channels for the dissemination of the AA message pay tribute to Lois’ vision and vindication of her faith and testament in that vision” (awkward pause … then everyone claps).
Other Random/Funny Quotes
“The largest meeting Seattle has ever hosted”
“There would be no fellowship if it wasn’t for Lois”
“If I had known that that was gonna be my last drink, I woulda had two”
“I hold in my hands the 10 millionth copy of the Big Book”
“Welcome to the Super Bowl of sobriety!”
“I am wearing a ring that my wife gave to me when I was sober ten years and I call it my humility ring. When I came home on the anniversary of my tenth years sobriety, she says I got you a ring. I says Oh isn’t that lovely, thank you very much. She said I had it inscribed, but there was a little mix up with the engraver. It was supposed to say “Ten Years Sober” but it says “Ten Years S. O. B. And I wear it every day of my life.”
“I wanna thank whoever hung the sign up there, it's a beautiful sign, ‘Unity in Action.’ This afternoon when we were down here trying out the sound system it said Bud Light.”
After months of searching, the original recordings can be found from the company who owns the rights to them. Please visit https://www.walkthetalkrecordings.com/ and search for “Seattle International”. They are available for a small fee. Or you can visit the Seattle Al-Anon office (when it re-opens) and listen for free.
These are the first lines from the convention, where up to 46,000 AA and Al-Anon members united for the opening ceremony on Friday, July 6, 1990. Right off the bat, we can hear the voice of the emcee, who is unmistakably radiant; a cross between Michael Buffer and a 1980s TV game show host. What a beautiful voice.
The first 15 minutes of the opening ceremony is an introduction by this wonderful voice, as he lists each and every one of the 71 countries represented at the event. From Argentina to Iceland, India to the Soviet Union, and ending with Zambia. The United States was mentioned last, after Zambia, but the mention of the U.S. last got the biggest applause. While listening to this on audio-only, this procession might sound a little boring, but I kept trying to picture what this scene looked like on the floor of the Kingdome. I imagine it looking similar to an Olympic Games opening day where all the countries and their Olympians are paraded down alphabetically country-by-country.
While mostly an AA event, the evening focused on their members and administrative structure, with some mentioning of Al-Anon by AA’s Chairman of the Board. “This morning, Al-Anon presented me with a resolution of gratitude of the fellowship of AA, and I would like to read the last few words of it:
‘Be it resolved that it is the desire of the World Service Conference of Al-Anon Family Groups always to remember Al-Anon’s roots and the inspired program of AA. May our special relationship continue to grow.’
May I ensure our friends in Al-Anon that we are here to stay, one day at a time, but we’re here to stay!”
Lois W was also praised heavily. “Of all those who with minds and hearts and hands implicit to the survival, growth, and vigor of this fellowship, none has had an impact more significant and enduring than Lois Wilson, a co-founder of Al-Anon, and a glorious lady. Lois died 19 months ago ... we feel her absence all the more keenly tonight because this is the first time we have converged ... without her being with us.”
The same speaker gave an in-depth analysis on just how much Lois means to everyone (this word salad of a quote was too necessary for me not to include): “Five years ago ... Lois expressed her belief that for all of the progress we had made, its only the beginning with much more to come. She said that the spirit of AA, its spiritual sources and resources, held enormous promise for humanity. And world events of recent months that have opened new and broader channels for the dissemination of the AA message pay tribute to Lois’ vision and vindication of her faith and testament in that vision” (awkward pause … then everyone claps).
Other Random/Funny Quotes
“The largest meeting Seattle has ever hosted”
“There would be no fellowship if it wasn’t for Lois”
“If I had known that that was gonna be my last drink, I woulda had two”
“I hold in my hands the 10 millionth copy of the Big Book”
“Welcome to the Super Bowl of sobriety!”
“I am wearing a ring that my wife gave to me when I was sober ten years and I call it my humility ring. When I came home on the anniversary of my tenth years sobriety, she says I got you a ring. I says Oh isn’t that lovely, thank you very much. She said I had it inscribed, but there was a little mix up with the engraver. It was supposed to say “Ten Years Sober” but it says “Ten Years S. O. B. And I wear it every day of my life.”
“I wanna thank whoever hung the sign up there, it's a beautiful sign, ‘Unity in Action.’ This afternoon when we were down here trying out the sound system it said Bud Light.”
After months of searching, the original recordings can be found from the company who owns the rights to them. Please visit https://www.walkthetalkrecordings.com/ and search for “Seattle International”. They are available for a small fee. Or you can visit the Seattle Al-Anon office (when it re-opens) and listen for free.
Help Bring Us Diversity
AIS is looking for new leaders to write for the Bits Newsletter! Writers who identify with the LGBTQIA2+ community, or are BIPOC, and would like to contribute to the Bits, on any Al-Anon topic, please let us know at newslettereditor@seattle-al-anon.org
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Keep an Open Mind |
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I was browsing through the slogans in How Al-Anon Works when this sentence grabbed my attention; “By limiting where we expect to find our answers, we may miss out on important opportunities to improve our lives” (p. 87). I know when I am desperate for a solution to an impactful issue, my mind often feels “locked.” I might resort to rigid logic and the same old circular reasoning in my head. I could spend hours trying to figure out how to fix things or make the unreasonable reasonable.
When I endeavor to “Keep an Open Mind,” I don’t allow the alcoholic’s disturbing behavior to eclipse my serenity. My path has been illuminated in many incredible ways, despite the heartbreaking ordeals that surround alcoholism. I find when I am open to the world around me, “important opportunities” tend to emerge.
I don’t want to miss out on anything that is good for my life. I have spent countless hours anguishing over people and situations that I have no control over. Those hours are lost, but I have choices on how I spend my time moving forward. There are actions I can take to heal my mind and improve my life.
Answers can come from strangers, a loving pet, a billboard, or exhilarating moments immersed in nature. Witnessing the authenticity and spontaneity of a child can turn my day around. Sometimes a familiar avenue reveals a solution, like recovery materials, a meeting, or talking with another member.
The other evening, I was churning with frustration and took a drive out to the country. I spotted some ripe blackberries, parked, and started plucking berries off their stickery vines. The sultry evening sun enveloped me as I savored the sweet berries on my tongue and maneuvered the treacherous vines away from my bare skin. I was plunged blissfully into the present moment.
Sometimes I find that I am trying to solve someone else’s problem as if it were my own. The irony comes when I realize that person isn’t even participating because I am enabling their irresponsibility. Living long term with the insanity of alcoholism, obsessing over the alcoholic became second nature. Al-Anon reminds me to “focus on myself.” Initially, it may feel selfish and abnormal. But allowing the alcoholic to face the consequences of their actions (or inactions) can be an act of love.
In my experience, keeping an open mind involves an open invitation to my Higher Power. Prayer quells the fear and quiets the worry. I can unpack the situation, sort through my emotions, and allow the outcome to unfold. If I can release what is troubling me, that may just be the “answer” I need.
When I endeavor to “Keep an Open Mind,” I don’t allow the alcoholic’s disturbing behavior to eclipse my serenity. My path has been illuminated in many incredible ways, despite the heartbreaking ordeals that surround alcoholism. I find when I am open to the world around me, “important opportunities” tend to emerge.
I don’t want to miss out on anything that is good for my life. I have spent countless hours anguishing over people and situations that I have no control over. Those hours are lost, but I have choices on how I spend my time moving forward. There are actions I can take to heal my mind and improve my life.
Answers can come from strangers, a loving pet, a billboard, or exhilarating moments immersed in nature. Witnessing the authenticity and spontaneity of a child can turn my day around. Sometimes a familiar avenue reveals a solution, like recovery materials, a meeting, or talking with another member.
The other evening, I was churning with frustration and took a drive out to the country. I spotted some ripe blackberries, parked, and started plucking berries off their stickery vines. The sultry evening sun enveloped me as I savored the sweet berries on my tongue and maneuvered the treacherous vines away from my bare skin. I was plunged blissfully into the present moment.
Sometimes I find that I am trying to solve someone else’s problem as if it were my own. The irony comes when I realize that person isn’t even participating because I am enabling their irresponsibility. Living long term with the insanity of alcoholism, obsessing over the alcoholic became second nature. Al-Anon reminds me to “focus on myself.” Initially, it may feel selfish and abnormal. But allowing the alcoholic to face the consequences of their actions (or inactions) can be an act of love.
In my experience, keeping an open mind involves an open invitation to my Higher Power. Prayer quells the fear and quiets the worry. I can unpack the situation, sort through my emotions, and allow the outcome to unfold. If I can release what is troubling me, that may just be the “answer” I need.
Enjoy Talking on the Phone or Sleeping on the Job? Seattle Al-Anon Information Service (AIS) Is Looking for Phone Volunteers! Shifts are available 7 days a week in 3-hour intervals starting at 7am during the day, and at night there is one shift starting at 10:30pm, which goes until 7am. The focus is to answer questions about Al-Anon and Alateen meeting times and Zoom availability, to give hope to people whose lives may be affected by someone else’s drinking, and to help others reach the appropriate source of help. A manual is provided with resource numbers and helpful suggestions on maintaining anonymity and talking to people in distress. FOR INFORMATION, PLEASE CONTACT phones@seattle-al-anon.org |
Tradition Eight
Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers. 
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Al-Anon Mailbag
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Question: Stella B from Cherry Grove, MN asks, What is the difference between a Step, a Tradition, and a Concept? Are they categorized that way for a reason?
Answer: If you're asking why we have these divisions in our Legacies, then I too have been curious about this. In the searchable online version of the Al-Anon Service Manual, Steps are defined as "a way of life appealing to all people of goodwill". The Traditions are slightly different in that "they guide the groups in relations to other groups, with AA, and the outside world". The lesser known Concepts are actually about service, and how vital service is to our own recovery. I also found this recent article about the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts very interesting. |
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AIS Needs You!
Current Service Opportunities *Web Editor* *Office Volunteers* *Phone Volunteers* If you are interested in a particular area of service, please contact chair@seattle-al-anon.org |
Al-Anon Joke of the Month
Three people, one of whom was a co-dependent, were in line to be executed at the guillotine. The first person stuck his head in the hole, the rope was cut, and the blade fell, only to stop an inch above the person's neck. The executioners saw it as a sign from God and so decided to let the person go. The next person put his head in the hole, the rope was cut, and again, the blade stopped an inch above the person's neck. That person, too, was released. As the co-dependent walked up for his turn at the guillotine, he turned to the executioner and said: "You know, I think I know how to fix that."
Do you have a funny or not so funny Al-Anon joke? Please send it along to newslettereditor@seattle-al-anon.org
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Pictures from the Memorial Presentation for Lois W
April 29, 1989, Bedford Hills, New York
As found in the Seattle AIS archives
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Concept Eight
The Board of Trustees delegates full authority for routine management of Al-Anon Headquarters to its executive committees. 
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Feeling Scatterbrained with Your Thoughts? It Might Help to Write Things Down.
If you ever feel like you would like to write something for the newsletter, please let us know at newslettereditor@seattle-al-anon.org Pen Names Accepted 
photo courtesy of Marjorie S
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June 2021 AIS Council Meeting Minutes
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photo courtesy of Marjorie S
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Secretary’s Report: Does anyone want the April minutes read? Are there any additions or corrections to be made? Mary R made a motion that the April Council minutes be accepted as presented. Doug L 2nd, motion carried. A request was made whether there were any additions or corrections for the May minutes. Doug L made a motion to accept as presented, Dave M 2nd, motion carried.
From the Chair: Eliza D continued while we waited for the Treasurer’s report. She asked: Have you done or been in a Group inventory? What did you learn from the Group Inventory? Discussion. The Council will do one soon.
Treasurer’s Report: Mariann M provided monthly reports. 12 donations $1,176.97. Total in bank $71,215.78. The Treasurer’s and Secretary’s names were put on bank accounts. $41.79 in fees were assessed for credit card purchases.
Vice-Chair Report: Linda H from the By-Laws Committee standing in for Helen V. The Committee thought a legal review was needed, an Attorney that knows this type of document. Linda H motioned for 5 hours of legal review at $125.00 an hour plus taxes with an attorney, Doug L 2nd, motion carried.
Old Business: The Resentment Bonfire is August 15 at Lincoln Park in West Seattle. A couple of people have contacted Eliza D offering to help, and more is needed. Shandra S was added to the list, BZ W volunteered to get the cake for the 70th anniversary. We need someone good with fire, and we need wood, etc. Will do a planning meeting next month.
New Business: Done
Coordinator Reports
Alateen Coordinator: Kathy B reported that AIS agreed to pay for a Zoom account, which hasn’t been set up because there was a problem with her being the host. It is all fixed. Will get in touch with schools to set up by September.
Archives Coordinator: Eric G has been digitizing the tapes. He is finding all the info he can, but it’s tough, especially if it is copyrighted. He is looking for help to get a cabinet and needs someone with a pickup truck to haul it.
Phones: Dave M reported that 75% of the shifts covered and 10:30 – 7pm are the busiest. He will update the phone manual. There were 56 calls last month. People were helped, weekends are the best. Get the message out; we need volunteers.
Communications: Cheré F reported that Susan C-H is doing a great job updating the meeting schedule. In-person and Hybrid meetings: please notify us if there are any changes. Eric G continues his excellent job on the Bits Newsletter. For July, if anyone has information on Hybrid meetings, Eric G would like to interview members on their experiences. The Outreach page is updated continually with plenty of information. Cheré F will be speaking to someone interested in the Web Editor position. Please direct newcomers to the “New to Al-Anon” tab. There is an E-Booklet that can be downloaded. Questions? Zoom meetings are starting to go back to in-person, but what happens to the Zoom meetings staying open. WA Area will have to start a conversation about this subject. Zoom meetings can register with WSO, but they would no longer be in our geographic area. AWSC will be practicing a Hybrid meeting, so we can all learn. Eliza D asked Cheré F about our website and a link to something translated into Spanish.
LDC Co-Coordinator: Doug L reported that the LDC sent out 175 Newcomer packets since this started, that is approximately 1 per day. The message from WSO is that some of the items that were out of stock are back in, so he'll ask Julie to take it from here. Last month, the 10 items that were out-of-stock were now down to 4. We placed an order right away. The Alateen books were 3 of the items that were out-of-stock at WSO. We still have stock on those. WSO said everything should be back in stock shortly. Spanish items are in stock. Karen L has proposed to extend the free shipping and no 10% surcharge to the end of the year (2021). Doug L made the motion, Mary B 2nd, and the motion carried.
Outreach Co-Coordinator: Mickey K reported that the committee has a 3-year plan to reach out to out-of-the-way areas and Alateen. Every group needs an outreach coordinator so that it’s more coordinated with the AIS Outreach Committee. Check the May Bits for a description of what that role would be. Need for a Location Liaison person, if interested contact us: outreach@seattle-al-anon.org. Google grants up to $10k of advertising for Al-Anon. The information requested is quite robust. Lots of energy, some decided to climb in to put together the initial parts of the proposal. The latter part needs a Committee. This is all for advertising online with Google, in particular. The next item is diversity; a small group is starting to talk about the lack of people of color, LGBTQ+, etc. The idea is to start the discussion; nothing is planned yet. Next, the medical field outreach for professionals that need the hours to keep their licenses. This is also in the formative stage. We have Placards that you can request by messaging Outreach. Please remember the Indian Nation’s people; Alcoholism affects them badly.
Tech Coordinator: Doug L developed a method to email the Council easily. The council-distribution-list@seattle-al-anon.org address sends a message to everyone on the Council, and board-distribution-list@seattle-al-anon.org will reach Board members.
The question was asked if AIS would pay for the masks, hand sanitizer, and wipes for In-Person meetings opening up? The answer was no, not AIS. Each group should pay for their own. If the Church requires it, they should provide.
AIS Board meeting: June 24, 2021 (cancelled)
Next meeting: July 8, 2021 at 7:30 pm
Attendance: 24 members
From the Chair: Eliza D continued while we waited for the Treasurer’s report. She asked: Have you done or been in a Group inventory? What did you learn from the Group Inventory? Discussion. The Council will do one soon.
Treasurer’s Report: Mariann M provided monthly reports. 12 donations $1,176.97. Total in bank $71,215.78. The Treasurer’s and Secretary’s names were put on bank accounts. $41.79 in fees were assessed for credit card purchases.
Vice-Chair Report: Linda H from the By-Laws Committee standing in for Helen V. The Committee thought a legal review was needed, an Attorney that knows this type of document. Linda H motioned for 5 hours of legal review at $125.00 an hour plus taxes with an attorney, Doug L 2nd, motion carried.
Old Business: The Resentment Bonfire is August 15 at Lincoln Park in West Seattle. A couple of people have contacted Eliza D offering to help, and more is needed. Shandra S was added to the list, BZ W volunteered to get the cake for the 70th anniversary. We need someone good with fire, and we need wood, etc. Will do a planning meeting next month.
New Business: Done
Coordinator Reports
Alateen Coordinator: Kathy B reported that AIS agreed to pay for a Zoom account, which hasn’t been set up because there was a problem with her being the host. It is all fixed. Will get in touch with schools to set up by September.
Archives Coordinator: Eric G has been digitizing the tapes. He is finding all the info he can, but it’s tough, especially if it is copyrighted. He is looking for help to get a cabinet and needs someone with a pickup truck to haul it.
Phones: Dave M reported that 75% of the shifts covered and 10:30 – 7pm are the busiest. He will update the phone manual. There were 56 calls last month. People were helped, weekends are the best. Get the message out; we need volunteers.
Communications: Cheré F reported that Susan C-H is doing a great job updating the meeting schedule. In-person and Hybrid meetings: please notify us if there are any changes. Eric G continues his excellent job on the Bits Newsletter. For July, if anyone has information on Hybrid meetings, Eric G would like to interview members on their experiences. The Outreach page is updated continually with plenty of information. Cheré F will be speaking to someone interested in the Web Editor position. Please direct newcomers to the “New to Al-Anon” tab. There is an E-Booklet that can be downloaded. Questions? Zoom meetings are starting to go back to in-person, but what happens to the Zoom meetings staying open. WA Area will have to start a conversation about this subject. Zoom meetings can register with WSO, but they would no longer be in our geographic area. AWSC will be practicing a Hybrid meeting, so we can all learn. Eliza D asked Cheré F about our website and a link to something translated into Spanish.
LDC Co-Coordinator: Doug L reported that the LDC sent out 175 Newcomer packets since this started, that is approximately 1 per day. The message from WSO is that some of the items that were out of stock are back in, so he'll ask Julie to take it from here. Last month, the 10 items that were out-of-stock were now down to 4. We placed an order right away. The Alateen books were 3 of the items that were out-of-stock at WSO. We still have stock on those. WSO said everything should be back in stock shortly. Spanish items are in stock. Karen L has proposed to extend the free shipping and no 10% surcharge to the end of the year (2021). Doug L made the motion, Mary B 2nd, and the motion carried.
Outreach Co-Coordinator: Mickey K reported that the committee has a 3-year plan to reach out to out-of-the-way areas and Alateen. Every group needs an outreach coordinator so that it’s more coordinated with the AIS Outreach Committee. Check the May Bits for a description of what that role would be. Need for a Location Liaison person, if interested contact us: outreach@seattle-al-anon.org. Google grants up to $10k of advertising for Al-Anon. The information requested is quite robust. Lots of energy, some decided to climb in to put together the initial parts of the proposal. The latter part needs a Committee. This is all for advertising online with Google, in particular. The next item is diversity; a small group is starting to talk about the lack of people of color, LGBTQ+, etc. The idea is to start the discussion; nothing is planned yet. Next, the medical field outreach for professionals that need the hours to keep their licenses. This is also in the formative stage. We have Placards that you can request by messaging Outreach. Please remember the Indian Nation’s people; Alcoholism affects them badly.
Tech Coordinator: Doug L developed a method to email the Council easily. The council-distribution-list@seattle-al-anon.org address sends a message to everyone on the Council, and board-distribution-list@seattle-al-anon.org will reach Board members.
The question was asked if AIS would pay for the masks, hand sanitizer, and wipes for In-Person meetings opening up? The answer was no, not AIS. Each group should pay for their own. If the Church requires it, they should provide.
AIS Board meeting: June 24, 2021 (cancelled)
Next meeting: July 8, 2021 at 7:30 pm
Attendance: 24 members
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